What Makes a Woman Unique?

A close friend once said to me “Why don’t we ever learn the extraordinary makeup of women from nature”.

Many will argue that being a woman makes no difference to our world and their uniqueness as female have no bearings to our eventual welfare as a race. I beg to disagree.

What makes a woman unique? These are the things that make a woman unique and different from anything and anyone on planet earth: their abilities to conceive a child, give birth, breastfeed a child, menstruate, and the unique bodies they have. These unique features are sometimes a challenge in the lives of many women, but they nevertheless remain a wonder to anyone observant and takes time to reflect.

Childbirth

The experience of childbirth is unique to women in the human race. There is something so special about being the principal person in all communities around the world for the birth and hence the beginning of another new life on earth.

What is so unique about childbirth.

• Childbirth is the unique door that ushers most of us into our existence on earth as human beings. We have no licence to live on earth unless by birth.

• Childbirth is the end and the beginning of a life process. It’s the end of life within the woman and the beginning of life in a new world called earth.

• Childbirth involves teamwork. Family (most often mum, aunt, etc), midwives, doctors, husbands, and partners, etc. The importance, role, and place of different people in our lives. My responsibility is to listen and be selective in what I take on board.

• Childbirth involves certain responsibilities from the mum, PUSH (Persist Until Something Happens). She knows that no one will do this for her unborn child. She knows her inaction could be very costly and life-threatening – to her and her unborn child.

• Childbirth pain I have been told is like no other. This says a lot about women and our daughters. Women are resilient in incredibly challenging circumstances. What does it mean and how does it feel to have such pain? I would never know and that is some experience women have that affects their opinions and perspective of the world and people.

No one goes through this process without the experience of understanding their uniqueness and the privilege they are gifted with in life.

Menstrual cycle

Every woman and daughter is special. The monthly cycle of our daughters and women says a lot about a woman’s enhanced perspective to life and this we often overlook in our conversations.

We behave and relegate this unique feature of women to what many cultures did and still do in their treatment of women undergoing their menstrual period. We still see women and our daughters as dirty, unclean, shameful, and unfit to engage in any public discourse during their menstrual cycle.

The menstrual cycle celebrates the uniqueness of women and our daughters.

• The cycle of life is replicated monthly in most women. The promise, the beginning, and the end of life are seen in a woman’s monthly circle. Some cultures use the beginning of a girl’s menstrual cycle to celebrate her coming of age, her uniqueness, and the future contributions she would make to her community, her new privileged place in her community. Such communities include the Amazonian Tikuna tribe where girls spend a long period of time learning about their cultures, their responsibilities. It is called the “pelazon” time; some south Indian communities where girls are given gifts in a coming-to-age ceremony called Ritusuddhi or Ritu Kala Samskara; in some parts of Ghana, girls at the onset of her menstrual cycle are gifted gifts, sits under ceremonial umbrellas and members of her family and friends will pay homage to her as a queen.

• The woman’s monthly circle reveals a woman’s inherent ability to adapt to change. Her period functions as a monthly clock and it comes with different items/issues for women and our daughters to address. Some side effects are extreme while others are mild, but most women maintain their optimal function during these periods. Women are designed to be resilient and to assume they have a “soft skin” in managing and leading projects and communities is myopic and short-sighted.

• The woman’s circle uniquely tells a story of love like no other. An egg remains on its own until a sperm connects with them. Until we accept the person and counsel of love into our being, our end is destined to be one of unfulfillment, loneliness, and emptiness. We may exist as human beings on earth, but we are dead on our inside until we accept the person of love.

The menstrual cycle is still unfortunately a social and religious stigma for what is natural in women in many communities today.

Conception

Only women and our daughters have the unique abilities to have the process of new life begin, develop, and grow within them as unique persons.

Conception only happens within a woman. This is mind-blowing. We take for granted the wonders of a human conception. This experience is so common in every society that we never stop to think and wonder about the beginning and growth of another unique individual in the womb of a woman.

Millions in every community have waited and in joy celebrated the news of a woman’s conception. It is the beginning of a unique process.

Conception is a natural event for most women. It is a subtle reminder that:

• Certain things in life cannot be bought or paid for.

• Certain abilities in life are not determined by one's financial or social status. You only have to be a woman to conceive in all cases. Men and sons can’t.

• Women have unique roles for which their bodies were designed.

Conception is an intricate process although it appears very simple from the outside. Eggs getting fertilised by sperms. Fertilised eggs landing in a unique place on the walls of the uterus. New life begins to grow. Simply Awesome!!

There is however a period when conception is likely not to happen in a woman. This period is called menopause. Did it ever cross your mind, why?

Breast Feeding

A woman is uniquely designed to produce within herself the very first nutritious meal for a newborn baby.

Many will not consider this special but if this feature and ability were removed from a woman, life on earth for most newborn babies will be unsustainable.

The cost associated with feeding a baby without a mother’s breast milk is unsustainable by most families in all communities.

Most communities in our world today have no access to any alternatives to a mother’s breast milk for their newborn babies. We know of instances where vaccines were used as pollical tools by certain governments, I will not bear anyone to imagine if this was the case with alternatives to a mother’s breast milk.

If we had no breast milk for our newborns, illegal and illicit trade in expired and harmful alternatives will skyrocket to scary levels in most communities. Many still do not care for the life of a newborn.

There have been instances of this horrible practice in our world.

A mother’s breast milk is so nutritious that nothing manufactured can be compared to it. Babies do not have a negative reaction to breast milk. We know the manufacturers of alternatives to breast milk have warnings on their products to shield them from any liability. Fortunately, a mother’s breast milk comes with confidence, love, care, and no warning signs.

Breast milk reduces a community’s health care cost. It is widely agreed that breast milk reduces the risk of childhood leukemia, asthma.

I celebrate moms who take their stand to breastfeed their babies contrary to the negative tide wave of comments they are likely to receive for breastfeeding.

How did we get to this point where breastfeeding is seen as “archaic”; “backdated”. Are we so ignorant of the truth?

I also applaud many moms who use their platforms to address the negative stereotypes/stigma associated with breastfeeding.

Gwen Stefani : “Breastfeeding is just obviously really convenient with my lifestyle. I don’t know when I’m going to stop. I’ll just keep going while I can — he’s getting his teeth, so it is a little bit scary. He’s bitten me a few times!”

Karolina Kurkova: “I wanted to celebrate women who are breastfeeding because I know that it’s not always easy,”

Pink: “I’m feeding my kid. Would you rather him scream? Because he’s very capable of that, too,”

Emily Ratajkowski: "If it seems like I'm always breastfeeding it's because I am." Luckily for us, this means we also get to see adorable baby pictures quite often!

Liv Tyler: “there should be no stigma — it’s a very beautiful and natural thing.”

Yes, breastfeeding makes a woman unique and that cannot be cancelled.

A Woman’s Body

There is something unique about the body of a woman. She is a wonder to behold.

Unfortunately, the woman’s body has been hijacked and turned into a billion-dollar industry in the entertainment world of music, pornography, movies.

Women and our daughters are still hunted for their bodies, and they have suffered horrible abuses in the process. Their bodies are seen and treated as assets to be traded for profit. Many see women and daughters as a means to financial fortune. It’s always about money and their continued desire to control the destinies of women.

Child trafficking and slavery, sex trade; early marriage, rape, kidnappings, incest, etc are a few of the many evils perpetrated on women and our daughters because of their bodies.

A woman’s body in a relationship built on the instructions of love is beautiful, awesome, pleasurable, and satisfying like no other. In a loving and caring relationship, a woman’s body never grows old.

A woman’s body is a gentle reminder that despite the storms and troubles that pelt themselves against the unique identity of being a woman, women and our daughters remain unique and significant to life on earth.

While it is important to acknowledge the uniqueness of the woman’s body, we must remember at all times that a woman IS NOT a sex object.

• Women are beautiful but they are persons, not objects.

• Our daughter’s anatomy is not all they are. That is simply the first layer that wraps around their excellence.

• If all we see is a woman’s anatomy; we are poor; short-sighted and will suffer heartaches. There is more to any book than the book cover.

In conclusion

It is with regret that many are hell-bent on erasing the unique identities of women and our daughters. There is a subtly craving to blur the distinction and unique qualities of women.

They consistently snare, complain, mock, deride and even complain that women are been prioritised over men and daughters over sons.

It is about time we peel away from our eyelids the scale of deception which is often used to hide and camouflage the evil schemes of persons, industries, religious organisations, communities, and governments against women.

We must acknowledge that we are still building and holding up structures; systems and age-long practices that devalue and pour contempt on the dignity of women and our daughters.

We are still in the business of erasing, cancelling and discouraging any attempt to celebrate the unique identities of women and our daughters.

Every woman has certain unique features and experiences in life that no man will ever experience or fully understand.

As a society, community, nation, etc we are bleeding to death if this trend of disinformation continues about women and our daughters.

Women are unique as persons and Love has equipped them to bring to the table we call life; certain unique contributions only they as women and daughters can bring.

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