What to look forward to as a woman?

Many will reply “a lot”, some “nothing” and others “it depends on the woman and the environment or neighbourhood she finds herself in”.

We all ask the same question in a variety of ways.

What is ahead for me in life?

What is ahead for me in my workplace?

What is ahead for me in my present relationship?

So what can a woman look forward to ? A woman can look towards experiencing everything and anything that love stirs her heart to pursue, embrace and amass herself in. Every woman has a unique purpose in life but she needs the company of discretion, adaptability, knowledge, and wisdom to experience the joys in her heart which is her true life goal.

Events around our work and in our communities constantly remind us of the great challenge women and our daughters face when reflecting or setting out their life plans. Many factors - culture, religious beliefs, governmental policies, and ideologies, family orientations (past and present), economy, child care, pregnancy influence the decisions women make about their plans.

Most of these factors come with grave limitations for women and they are deliberately upheld by our communities and institutions to have women play second fiddle after men. Several factors, religious, cultural are subtly presented as ideal whereas they seek to erase the voice and influence of women and our daughters in our communities and nations.

The question "What can a woman look forward to in life", demands our collective reflections. We must reflect on our answers. We must ask ourselves some very pertinent questions: why should women and our daughters continue to live lives based on the false narratives we have created and enforced as a rule in our communities; why should we continue to promote the many negative assumptions, and stereotypes we hold about women and our daughters.

It's time for the blindfolds to come down. We must always remember this truth: the environments may spell abject doom for women but nothing is strong enough to silence the contribution of a woman's voice.

So, what can a woman look to in the future?

Nothing.

When we expect nothing, we despair of life and in many cases walk away from opportunities. When we see nothing in our tomorrow, we take on many attitudes. We become distant from our true selves. We either tag and get along or complain while refusing to engage our gifts, personality, and talents into our lives.

We end up removing ourselves from such conversations, and on other occasions disparage those involved and are keen to make a difference. When we see a future without our footprints or productive engagements, life loses its glitter and glamour.

What we consider to be nothing now, is the beginning of something tangible for us to work with. Our present “nothing” in our words can become the beginning of some great discovery of ourselves and our world. There is actually no such thing as "nothing" in life. Zero is not "nothing". Without the number "zero", our monetary system will crash overnight.

Nothing is often in our feelings. We feel empty and unimportant. We feel there is really nothing to look forward to in our life, community, and environment. This feeling robs anyone of hope and gives us enough reason to despair of life itself. The truth however is, our feelings are not facts. They are temporary even if they appear to be based on certain factors that are likely to stay with us for a very long time.

The feeling of nothing clouds the beauty and excellence of several events in our lives. Nothing discountenances those events which at their time were the highlights in our lives.

We have all had many “incredible” moments. We have also had some persons who had "incredible" effects on our mindsets, but we rarely acknowledged or gave them room in our minds or lives.

Regrettably, many of us still treat the "Diamonds" in our lives as mere "Dust". This is what the feeling of “nothing” does. Everything and everyone ends up losing their shine and significance.

We set our hearts to pursue certain goals. We end up prioritising activities that lead to more emptiness i.e. cars, houses, bank balances to the detriment of our health and relationships. It is time we pause and take out time to reflect on "what we really want in life".

It is very possible to assume fulfillment by our accomplishments and the accolades we receive from our world while at the same time we know we are actually "broke and disgusted" on our inside. We are living our lives behind the masks of deception.

We have all seen how people use social media to camouflage their pain and mask their emptiness/loneliness. Owning and becoming true to ourselves may come across as difficult and challenging in our “bling world” but it is the surest ground to plant our feet on for the future.

The feeling of "nothing" should never take the place of your person. We may feel like nothing and that our lives don’t matter. That is so far from the truth. You matter and you are a significant member of our world. No one can take the place of your voice, contributions, and person.

The present economic environments, culture, religious practices, the "cancel" culture, and governmental legislation may seek to restrict or erase your voice and participation but alas, they are late. You will adapt and make a difference in your world. This world awaits you.

You are not in a popularity contest. You need one person to hear you, see you and listen even if it means disagreeing with you. if no one listens,

Herself.

Life is served with a bowl of questions. The answers are within reach but pride and the poor image we have of ourselves tie us down in defeat.

Our words have far much more consequences in our lives and businesses than we often acknowledge.

A close friend once advised me saying "Your words are like seeds. They will become your future experiences. Be careful what you plant by your words".

We must not make our words, the first enemies we encounter at our gates but unfortunately, that is the experience we often embrace in our conversations with ourselves.

There are negative events that scar our experiences and blurs the presence of truth in our lives. We however can still make balloons become the moons we admire in the midst of storms. This is not the "head in the sand" phenomenon. It is holding a healthy perspective of life, and ourselves.

No one will always get it right or hit the mark. You will not always win. You will not always be applauded. You will sometimes be misunderstood. You will fail sometimes. You will sometimes fall short of your own expectations.

However, you will sometimes receive accolades, awards, and recognition. You will sometimes get that desired job or the promotion you so wanted for years.

This is what life is in the human body.

You are worth the future love stirs in your heart to pursue. Yes, and this is true in the face of the most outrageous circumstances or life experiences you presently are dealing with as a woman or daughter. Please do not give up.

In conclusion

If all we have and experience in life is simply ourselves, people, and nature, then our experiences would be limited and small.

Let Love become the one voice we listen to about ourselves and the future. Until we make Love's voice our mirror in life, we will never heal, and we will forever be covered in shame, disgust, disappointment, and desperation.

Love is life's ultimate experience for anyone. The company of Love is the ultimate answer to the question “What can a woman look forward to in life”. That is a guarantee in all situations and circumstances. The presence and embrace of the one called Love is a certain place for every woman and daughter.

Until the experience of the person called LOVE becomes our first and utmost priority in life, we are chasing shadows.

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